‘A birthday reflection on love, presence, and the power of the unknown’
Today would have been Rajnish’s 64th birthday.
It’s hard to believe he’s been physically gone for 24 years, because somehow, I still feel him every single day.
In my conversations, in meetings, in moments of silence, his name, his memory, his guidance always finds a way in.
It’s as if his presence has only grown stronger with time.
Not just for me, but for everyone who ever met him, even if just for an hour.
That was his magic. His energy didn’t just fill the room; it stayed with you.
As I think about Rajnish’s lasting impact, I realise how much I’ve learned from both his presence and his absence. These lessons have profoundly shaped my life…
Today, I write this blog as a tribute – not only to the man he was, but to the life that continues through him.
“The Chain Reaction of One Person”
When Rajnish came into my life, I had no idea he would become the starting point of an entire universe of relationships.
Through him came my in-laws, the Great Kohlis😍, his brothers and sisters, their children, and more.
Our daughters were born from that bond. Through them, I now have caring sons-in-law, and through them, new families, the Gulatis and Kulars- My strengths🙏😊
And the greatest joy of all, my grandchildren Nirvair and Anav, two little souls who fill my heart in ways I can’t describe.❤️
Each of these connections has brought unique colours to my life’s canvas – teaching me, challenging me, and helping me grow.
Even in my work life, some of the most meaningful friendships and partnerships were shaped because of the people Rajnish brought into my world. He was that one person whose presence kept opening new doors.
And isn’t that true for all of us?
When someone enters your life, they don’t come alone.
They carry with them a world of stories, emotions, relationships, and sometimes even futures.
Some of those people you’ll connect with instantly.
Some you may find challenging to relate to.
But they are all part of the bigger picture – a larger tapestry that shapes your journey, thread by thread.
Sometimes we forget the source. But the truth is – one person can truly change everything.
In moments of quiet reflection, I often feel as if Rajnish is softly saying to me:
“I am our kids’ past… and you are their present and future.”
These words echo deeply in me, reminding me of the bridge I now hold.
His influence lives on, through me, through our children, through every single bond we build together.
And it’s this bridge, between past, present, and future, that keeps me grounded and inspired.
“The Communication with the Unknown”
There’s the world we see… and then, there’s the world we feel.
A space where love doesn’t need a voice, where presence is felt, not seen. That’s the space I live in with Rajnish.
When he left this world, many things ended.
But one thing began – a silent, powerful, and sacred communication.
I don’t know how, but I feel his presence in ways I never imagined.
‘Sometimes in a dream.’
‘Sometimes, a thought guides me at the right time.’
‘Sometimes, in a situation that magically falls into place.’
I call it “communication with the unknown.”
It’s not about ghosts or illusions. It’s about love that has shifted forms.
It’s about feeling someone guide you, even when they aren’t physically around.
And the first form of this communication begins within us…
With our inner world.
With our own heart.
With our emotions.
With our breath.
That’s where the messages come. That’s where we hear the whispers we didn’t even know we needed.
“Relationships as a Path to Spiritual Growth”
Rajnish may have been the first thread, but over time, so many people have been woven into the fabric of my life.
My daughters, my in-laws. My sons-in-law and their families. My grandchildren. Business associates who entered my life through him.
And every soul who became part of my journey. Each of them has been a mirror, a lesson, a guide. They’ve taught me patience, resilience, love, forgiveness, and the importance of letting go.
Some tested me. Some held me. Some pushed me into discomfort that led to my growth.
I never planned to be a life designer, an entrepreneur, or a therapist.
But now I know, I was being prepared all along.
These relationships were my therapy. They helped me access parts of myself I never knew existed.
The broken parts. The hidden gifts. The spiritual path waits quietly inside me. And through these people, I was healed.
“Understanding Value, When They Are Here, and When They Are Not”
This is the part that touches the soul.
Why is it that we often realise someone’s true value only after they’re no longer physically around?
Why do we sometimes overlook presence, but feel absence so deeply?
I’ve come to understand that value is not always loud.
It’s in the quiet ways someone makes you feel safe.
It’s in the warmth they bring to your everyday moments.
It’s in the way their energy silently shapes your world, even when they’re not speaking.
And it’s in the way you continue to feel them… even decades later.
Rajneesh’s identity, his strength, his smile, his guidance –
It’s all still here. In my family. In my work. In my breath.
In the way I move through the world.
Today, I sit here, 23 years after his physical absence, and I feel his presence more than ever.
It shows up in the smallest things:
🌿 The way I handle difficult situations…
🌿 The way I listen and communicate with others…
🌿 The way I feel guided, especially in moments of uncertainty…
His absence taught me the true meaning of presence.
And now I live with a deeper awareness – to appreciate those who are with us, here and now, while we still can.
In every step I take, I still hear his words gently guiding me:
“You are their future.”
With those words, I move forward – with love, with gratitude, and with purpose.
So, I ask you, dear reader:
✨ Do you truly see the value of the people in your life while they are with you?
✨ Or does it take their absence to realise how much they meant?
It’s a question worth pausing for, because when we learn to see the value of someone while they’re alive, we live more deeply, love more consciously, and walk this journey with a little more grace.
If this touched something in you…Take a quiet moment today.
Reflect on the people who have shaped you, especially those who may no longer be physically present.
Are there stories, feelings, or lessons still living inside you because of them?
That’s where healing begins. That’s where love lives on.💕💕
