My Philosophy of Life — “Life is all about Acceptance, and acceptance only comes when you are Aware of Life.”
Being a housewife, I only knew how to cook, clean, and take care of my house, my husband and my children. My entire focus was to take care of my kids and their needs. I was all the time busy doing research on different kinds of courses and classes for them to make them busy and innovative. I always felt that every individual can work beyond their capacity. So, my entire concentration was on my Family. As my kids were of different age groups, they needed my attention all the time. My day used to start at 6 am and go on till 1 am. I just had absolutely no time for myself, but I did enjoy that phase of my life. I was very satisfied and happy.
All of a sudden my life changed, and my loving husband left us all in 2002. It was so sudden and we all were not ready for that shock. And it took me quite a lot of time to get back on my feet and accept the reality of life. My parents were in Amritsar and they wanted me to move to Punjab.
Being independent all my life I felt that I cannot work under anyone with any pressure and I must figure out my own core. Somehow, I always felt that there is some supernatural power with me to guide and show me the right direction in every step. My parents and my siblings were the biggest support to me as they trusted me and that had given me a lot of confidence. This helped me to move forward and look for my way, on my own.
Without having any professional technical degree, today I am proudly running the Construction and Fashion businesses for the last 20 years. I started my career with no purpose, no goal. My only goal was to become emotionally and financially stable so that I would be able to handle myself and set my children, give them proper education so that they can become successful individuals and maintain the existing lifestyle.
My Last trip in Bhutan with my husband in 2002, Beautiful Memories
I am very conscious when it comes to perfection, even Rajnish, my husband was too perfect in everything. And this quality of perfection has been transmitted to my girls as well. So, whatever we do, we go into the depth and do it with full heart and soul. That is why many times I do not get results immediately. So, for that, I really go deeper and deeper into everything and try to understand and implement it in a better way. So, in order to be perfect all the time I was always looking to explore new Learning tools. Off and on I was looking for some learning to upgrade myself everywhere I went and I always used to find something interesting to learn and implement.
I had so many questions in my mind all the time even as a kid, about my existence. I was a very inquisitive person and always wanted to know about myself, where I have come from? Why I am here? What is my existence? Why so much suffering and challenges in life? If our existence on this planet is for short while, then what would be the purpose of taking birth, coming here, and managing our challenges every step?
By the time we understand our purpose and how to live life fully and sensibly, then our time gets over and we are already on our deathbed and wondering what we have done in our entire life. We were only busy looking after the outside world and never got a chance or even thought to look inside us.
So many questions, why why why ???
In this journey even though I had so many ups & downs still faced every step very boldly and positively. I always try to look at the positive side of every situation. On my journey, I have read so many books and attended many seminars, and meditation retreats just to understand this piece of “LIFE” and definitely my existence which is “ME”.
On this journey, I learned and experienced so much and still the answer to my existence is not yet clear to me. All great Saints who come on this earth say that this is the “KARMA BHOMI” and we all are actors and this life is a stage so let’s perform our roles (KARMA) and leave it all on Almighty.
There is a phrase in our Holy book ‘Gita’ as well — “KARMA KIYEJA, PHAL KI ICHA, MAT KAR Aa INSAAN, JAISE KARMA KAREGA VAISE PHAL DEGA BHAGWAN.” (
With my experience of 25 years in the journey of SELF DISCOVERY (Spirituality), I have understood only one thing, first, you must understand yourself and make yourself happy and satisfied. Once that is clear then it is easy for you to excel in your own field. You will be able to make the right choices and then automatically everything falls in its place.
We all need to choose at least one path for all of us. I chose the path of SELF DISCOVERY and started exploring myself. I have done a lot of research and learning on this path of FINDING MYSELF. On this path, I experienced a lot of miracles which normally we don’t get to know, but me being in the Awareness stage I acknowledged those miracles and because of those experiences, my journey of SELF DISCOVERY is becoming clearer to me day by day.
Self-discovery means many things. It means finding your purpose in life (we all have a purpose), it means digging deep into our childhood and revealing the experiences that shaped us… good and bad. It means realizing what our beliefs are and living by ourselves. The effects of self-discovery include happiness, fulfilment, clarity and maybe even enlightenment! The journey however is not always an easy road. The journey is full of fear, confusion, misunderstanding, doubt and literally re-visiting all your choices in life. I like to refer to it as the spring-cleaning of the mind, your emotions and our surroundings (including the people in our life). It requires making some tough decisions and sticking to them. While on the path of this journey, there are a lot of people who have come and gone. I call them the “takers.” They were takers because I allowed them to be and it wasn’t until I realized that many of these relationships were one-sided — self-discovery — that I decided to let go of them. It has also seen me completely change the course of my life and start to follow my true passion and purpose (this blog). I have also started to set intentions and no longer have expectations from others. I’ve had several setbacks along the way and I have no doubt I will have many more but, I’m not giving up.
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After all the research and experiment with all the specific tools on ‘MYSELF’, I transformed completely. There is a drastic change in my Mental, Emotional, and Physical health. And I learn to live entirely in the AWARENESS stage.
I believe that every individual has the ability to change themselves, but I also recognize that sometimes change can be hard and that is why I am here to coach, guide, and motivate. My objective is to help people to be aware of themselves and live better lives. My coaching entails the inner workings of the mind and helps you pursue adopted virtues by understanding the workings of your own mind and gaining control over it. Nothing is wretched unless you think in that manner. My approach is personalized with unique mind tools to propel you from where you are right now to where you want to be.
My life was always interesting and full of excitement. Even though so many obstacles and challenges have come my way, I always handled them very positively and accepted each step and moment and kept going with the flow. Now, I get solutions in each step moving forward in the right direction.
One major thing I learned on this journey is always to be a student. Learning and exploring have become an integral part of my journey. I feel that whatever I have learned here I should share with this world before I exit from this Planet.
Are you resonating with my story? Please do comment!
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Vandana Raj — (Pen name — Vindi Kohli)😊
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